One person exerting control can wreak enormous havoc.

So much of my career and life has been about learning to be responsible for groups of people without controlling them. Indeed, attempting to control them would have been disastrous. This is a strength I have. Where better to use it than with children who, if supported and nurtured, will grow to be leaders themselves? They do not need to be controlled; they must be supported as they learn to control themselves so they might contribute the best of what they are.

“A multimillionaire who had spent a hard youth in poverty and misery wanted to protect his descendants from similar deprivations. He consulted a lawyer and told him the size of his fortune, as well as that he wanted to protect his descendants to approximately the tenth generation. The lawyer took his pen and began to figure. When he finished he turned to his client and said: ‘Your fortune is so great that it is sufficient to provide for your descendants adequately up to the tenth generation. But do you know that if you do this, you are protecting children each of whom is related to over 1,000 persons of your generation as closely as he is related to you?”

Albert Adler, 1957